Mother’s day is a very special day to most… and a very hard day for some. Mother’s carry a special love from their children that cannot be easily replaced. Today is the one day a year that is set aside (which I think there should be more days) that we all gather and come close to those that we call mother’s. Some will call their mother today and tell them that they love her, some will travel many miles to bring her favorite flowers and some will look at pictures remembering their mother’s who have passed before them. Mother’s day is a day of celebration but there are two other very important factors that we must keep in mind when wishing someone “Happy Mother’s Day!”.
Every day we serve families here at the funeral home that have to make the hard decisions in honoring their mother. These decisions are based on years of memories, happy or sad, that cause our hearts to grieve. I have seen funeral services in so many different fashions to honor a mother and you can feel a different pressure when you are planning a funeral for a mother rather than a father. A father in death is remembered as being strong, honorable and even sometimes… heroic. These attributes carry over to our mother’s as well but thrown on top of that is the nurturing, unending love that we all feel from our mother’s. This is a special bond and it is hard to break and let go. Mother’s day can represent that loss for those who have had to make these decisions and it can be a hard day for those to handle.
Mother’s day also represents something entirely different that is incredibly hard to handle, and for some of us we seem to forget. Mother’s day also represents the loss of a child. This day will bring back so many tuff memories to a mother who is still grieving, and more than likely will always be grieving, and this day will serve as a day of tremendous heartache. I have heard it said many times that no one will experience a loss as severe as loosing a child, and I can easily see that. Today is not the only day that reminds them of the loss of their child but it can be very hard to handle seeing all the flowers, cards, commercials, etc… that goes along with mother’s day. I have worked with parents who on this day just decide to stay in and try to celebrate the good memories without even going out in public and facing others who are full of joy and excitement on this day, it can be heartbreaking to witness others celebrating when all they feel is grief inside.
As we come together to celebrate our mother’s today… lets remember those who are having a hard day and give them words of encouragement and say a prayer that God’s comforting arm’s with surround them, especially this day and the days that follow.
Another saying I hear at almost every funeral for someones mother is this… “You never know when you are going to loose her, so do not hesitate in telling her you love her and give her a big hug every chance you get!”.
Happy Mother’s Day…